Archives For Self-Confidence


mqdefaultIt’s funny how a smile on the outside doesn’t always take away the insecurity on the inside. Faking confidence is a hard life to live. Sadly, there are many among us that have lived with a silent agony that eats them from the inside out. Maybe you know someone that lives this way. Maybe that someone is you.

You have learned to fake your way to the front of the crowd, but inside you feel like you are the last in line. It’s more common than you might think to fake confidence.

There are many people who have mastered faking confidence. They hide their shyness behind a smile. They have learned a smile creates an impression that all is well on the inside. Many people make a fast decision like when picking out clothing to buy or what meal to order, thus painting the false impression they are not indecisive. Often, strong eye contact is a learned and practiced skill that portrays inner confidence.

Now don’t get me wrong, all of the above-mentioned things are not wrong. In fact,  they can be true signs of true confidence and can help build confidence as well. However, you know the truth. You are the one that actually knows what is going on deep inside of you. After many years of reflection on this issue I’m convinced that the greatest enemy of true confidence on the inside is fear, the fear that you are not good enough, the fear that you are not truly unconditional loved by anyone.

Until you come to believe that God loves you unconditionally and entirely, you will never have the proper foundation of pure confidence that is God’s gift of grace to those who find their value in His love for them alone. 1 John 4:18, teaches us, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…” Accepting the perfect love of God into your life drives out fear! Period! Once fear of, not being unconditionally loved is gone, you are free to live in the gift of confidence that has always been there.

By design, God has placed in your life- worth and extreme value. He created you and He didn’t make a mistake. You are not a mistake. You are His and that is enough. You will never feel confident at all times. However, the fastest way to recapture confidence on the inside is to pause for just a few moments and say within your heart, “God created me out of His love, therefore I’m priceless in His eyes, and that is all I need.”

Philippians 1:6 “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Having self-confidence is a hugely important part of your Christian walk. If you don’t have enough self-confidence your life is more easily tossed to and fro by the waves of this unstable world. I want you to know today, that God is with you, and wants to help you with stronger self-confidence-the kind self-confidence that is found only in Him.

Without God’s gift of self-confidence in your life, you will soon find many unhealthy choices become commonplace in your life. I want you to remember that Jesus was confident in what the Father called Him to accomplish, and you can be confident in what He has called you to do.

God has made you remarkable for His purpose. If you walk daily in that purpose, self-confidence will occur because you are allowing Jesus to arise within you. You will then begin to see that you are not called to impress the world, but you are called to follow Christ through the world.

Here are a few tips to help you along the way.

1. Crush the desire to compare yourself to others

You must get rid of the desire to compare your life to others around you. It’s okay to learn from the strong points of someone’s life, but be careful not to compare the worst things about your life to the best things in someone else’s life. When you do that, it brings feelings that are not good to the table.

2. God made you to be you

Don’t live a fake life. In other words, don’t live the life of another person hoping people will like you more. God made you different on purpose. You are unique because God created you that way. You would be amazed at what God can do through your uniqueness when you give it to Him, and stop trying to get rid of it.

3. Throw negative self-talking out the door

This is a straightforward one. Throw it away! You need to start talking supportive to yourself again. God is on your side. If you had to build a bridge to walk across a pit of alligators, you wouldn’t build it out of weak planks. Therefore, don’t build the course of your daily life with poor planks.

4. Accept your weakness

That’s right! Accept your weakness. God can even use them. Read this scripture.

2 Cor 12:9-10 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

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