“Resentment and fear are two issues that need to be dealt with before we can begin the process of preparing our inventory. Our resentment toward people, places, and things that have injured us keeps us preoccupied and limits our ability to live in the present moment.”(Friends in Recovery 62)
One of the things I have noticed over the many years of being a pastor is that many people are trapped in the endless cycle of resentment and fear. Often I see it manifest just when someone is getting really close to achieving what they have been attempting to accomplish for a long while. It is like they get right to the finish line and decide to turn to the left or to the right. Just before victory they take off running in the wrong direction while the crowd that was cheering them on stops cheering and looks on in disbelief. It is like they are afraid of success.
I am convinced that the thinking patterns they learned while young children kicks in and they revert back to what they know is safe, instead of pressing forward and crossing the finish line into the unknown, that may or may not be safe. They are simply allow resentment and fear to control them, and it’s not until they break this kind of thinking, that they will truly be free to become all that God wants them to be. It’s my belief they should take responsibility and move pass the comfortableness of wrong thinking and accept the fact they need to stop blaming others for their failures and move forward with God’s help.
I agree with the statement I found in the book that says, “Blaming others for our misfortune, denying responsibility for hurtful behavior, and resisting the truth are behavior patterns we must discard. These particular learned behaviors were developed early in life and have become character defects.” (Friends in Recovery 62)
Tips For Dealing With Resentment And Fear
1. Fear And Resentment Can Be Defeated With God’s love.
The bible tells us that perfect love cast out fear. Therefore, when you accept the love of God, and pass His love unconditional along to others, you are turning the battle over to God and not carrying it yourself.
2.Letting Go Of Resentment And Fear Is a Decision.
You must stop allowing them to stealing your time. You will never move forward while chained to resentment and fear. Make a choice to walk in the promise that goodness and mercy shall follow you all the days of your life. Picture goodness and mercy as two people behind you cheering you on!
3. Forgiveness Is Powerful
Forgiving yourself and forgiving others will crush resentment and fear. Both are hard to do but never impossible. The Holy Spirit living in you desires both to happen so surrender to His desire, and allow it to supernaturally take place.
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