Surfing For God by Michael John Cusick is a must read for anyone struggling with the addiction of porn. He openly places his struggles and victories on the table for the reader to see and experience. By sharing his life he addresses many root issues of pornography. In his book, he argues that in today’s society, “When a man surfs the Internet for porn he is really surfing for God.”
Michael deals with the empty promises, personal brokenness and shame in great detail.
Concerning the empty promises he address some of the following issues.
Porn promises validation of our manhood without requiring strength
Porn promises sexual fulfillment without relationship
Porn promises intimacy without requiring risk & suffering
Porn promises passion & life without connection to your soul
Porn promises power over women without responsibility & humility
Porn promises comfort & care without depending on others
Speaking to the issue of personal brokenness he never leaves you without hope of full restoration to God and others. There is a beautiful sense of light at the end of the tunnel. Michael doesn’t sugarcoat anything; he tells it straight about the damage porn does to relationships and to the soul of a man. However, it must be noted again that he paints a great ray of hope to be free. “If you are losing the battle, please read closely: following Jesus consists of so much more than trying harder and white-knuckling your way through it. You can be free.”
As for the issue of shame he writes, “To be naked and unashamed before God meant that Adam and Eve were both free and able to offer to God exactly who they were, without holding anything back or hiding their true selves. They were fully known, just as they were created to be, and they were fully okay with that. This led to an uninhibited intimacy with God and with each other.” (In my opinion this is a great chapter that really stand out. Chapter 6)
In closing I would add that it’s a must read for any man and a must read for the wives of husbands that have struggled with porn. It will help the wife get a better insight into what is really going on at the root of the issue.
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