Archives For Isolation


You were not meant to be alone and isolated from people. You were never meant to say, “All I need is God and no one else.” God created us for fellowship with Him and fellowship with others. It’s God’s perfect plan.

I once had a friend who began to pull away from the body of Christ. He became disenfranchised for many reasons and finally allowed things to pull him away from those that loved him. He didn’t leave God, but he did say over and over to others, and me “All I need is God and no one else.”

Somehow, he had bought into the lie that he could do it with just God. By cutting off the flesh of humanity, he thought his life would be richer and fuller. Over the next several months,  he systematically cut off his best friends also. I was among that number, and it hurt and grieved me horribly.

He would touch base with me by phone from time to time, but it was shallow, and I could hear in his voice that he was slipping over the edge. The fellowship of the body of Christ had been traded in and replaced with a pseudo kind of Christian fellowship that consisted of just him and God.

It sounds good on the surface to say, “All I need is God and no one else,” but the fact of the matter it’s impossible to have true biblical fellowship cut off from the body. You and I were designed to have a vertical relationship with God and a horizontal relationship with each other.

My friend came up with a thought in isolation away from the body because he said he heard the voice of God tell him to do something. He didn’t run the voice through scripture to see if it contradicted anything and he didn’t run the voice by any believers for accountability. He simply “heard a voice,” and obeyed the voice.

The story is long;  therefore I will make it short and more bullet point for your reading.

  • He said he heard God tell him to drive out to the Mt. Diablo and climb to the top to be alone with him for many days. (Temperatures can reach high 90’s and above)
  • He was told to tell no one and to take only water
  • He drove his truck to the park and parked it at the bottom of the mountain.
  • He took his keys and threw them into a pond and threw his cell phone into the pond also.
  • He hiked up the mountain and found a place to worship and talk with God.
  • He used up all his water before reaching the top and over the next few days he dehydrated and began to see things.
  • He saw and heard angles telling him to do things and many other things that would be just too strange to share with you.
  • Finally, with the heat being too much to handle he unclothed himself wholly and lay down to die. That’s correct, he was naked on the mountain.
  • He was found the next morning almost dead. He was hanging on to life by a thread.
  • “All I need is God and no one else,” had taken him to a place of death and not life.

He finally made a full recovery in the hospital. His parents, family and friends were all happy he was alive. I would love to say he fully learned his lesson, but it wasn’t over night. Even after almost dying, he still had a grudge against the body of Christ. Over the years,  he has slowly worked through his issues, and last I heard he was doing well.

Pastor Rick Warren once said, “Why is it important to join a local church family? Because it proves you are committed to your spiritual brothers and sisters in reality, not just in theory. God wants you to love real people, not ideal people. You can spend a lifetime searching for the perfect church, but you will never find it. You are called to love imperfect sinners, just as God does.”


Loneliness is a heavy burden to carry.   Loneliness can be experienced because you have isolated yourself away from people and it can also be experienced among a crowd. Sometimes, the loneliness place to be is in a crowd of people where you feel like you don’t connect with anyone in the room.You find a safe place in the crowded room and say nothing because you feel like you have nothing of importance to share, so you don’t even try. Somewhere deep down you don’t like the person you are, therefore, you falsely believe no one else will like you either.

With that kind of thinking you become very self-critical of yourself and believe the lie that you have nothing to offer of value. When you give into that type of thinking, the downward spiral of depression sets in. You begin to have feelings that you are not worthy or good enough to be anyone’s friend.

Believe it or not, one of the causes of loneliness is not a lack of friends because you may have many. The main cause that produces loneliness is a lack of a true intimate relationships. You need a few intimate relationships in order to share your emotions in a safe place. You need a few intimate friends that will listen and help you overcome loneliness.

But how do you find those type of people? Well, there are lonely people everywhere wanting to be heard. Find someone that needs what you need and give them the gift of listening. You will be amazed at how fast they will become a listener for your hurts.

To conquer loneliness you must get involved with people. You are going to have to put yourself out there more often. You are going to have to spend more time in crowds but not hide away in the crowd like I mentioned in the beginning of this post.

Places To Start Your Healing

  1. Talk to people.  Each time you talk to someone new, a new possible friendship presents itself.
  2. Find a place to volunteer like a soup kitchen or tutoring at a local school.
  3. Join a team sport in your community.
  4. Go to a local hospital and sit in the waiting room. Look for an opportunity to talk with someone waiting on a loved one to come out of surgery.
  5. Important note: Once you meet people in the ways I just mentioned, you must invite them to meet you outside of those events/places. (That’s taking it to the next level)

I could go on and on but I think you get the point. Get back out there and try again.


Proverbs 18:1
A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire;
He rages against all wise judgment.


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