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“Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!” Now that’s my kind of prayer! It’s my kind of prayer, and I venture to bet it’s your kind of prayer from time to time also. It’s not a faithless prayer. It’s a prayer that is mixed with trust and yet a hint of despair.

Despair is often the unwanted guest of an ongoing crisis. Despair somehow slips into our temple and pokes around causing us to doubt things will ever change.  Such is the case of the man in Mark 9.

His son is a demon-possessed, and he brings his son to the disciples of Jesus for deliverance. His steps of faith toward the men of God have ended in complete failure.  The disciples are not able to help his son.

The voice of despair grows stronger in his heart. He thinks to himself, “What now?” Suddenly, Jesus takes center stage. Jesus asks a few questions, and the man asks Jesus to do something. “But if you can do anything, have compassion on us and help us.” I love the response of Jesus, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believers.”

Then we see the broken beauty of the moment. A man of flesh and blood has faith and yet unbelief mixed in his heart, but Jesus answers his prayer anyway. With tears, the father cries out, “Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!” It’s a prayer that bottles the request to remove the despair and fill up what is lacking in his trust.

He has seen the failure of the disciples, and it has only increased his  sense of despair and now what faith he has left seems to be quickly draining away. However, whereas the disciple didn’t have enough faith to accomplish the request, Jesus has unlimited power.

Jesus helps his unbelief and the miracle happens. Sometimes the greatest faith move you can make is to give your unbelief to Him in faith! The cries of this man’s heart have resonated with many that fight the same battle across the sands of time. He prays for relief just as he is, a doubter that needs a touch from God. Never forget; you can do the same.

emotional-painIf  you’re alive, you will face emotional pain from time to time. There will be times that sadness will overtake you and it will seem like you have no control over its weight upon you at all. It could be that you have been hurt really bad by a close  friend, or you have suffered a family member dying recently.

Whatever has your emotions out of control…the pain is real and it hurts. You may be at the point where you are full of grief over it, and you simple wish there was an instant cure but sadly, you know that’s not how it works. Emotional pain, just like physical pain, subsides over time. You must hold on to that truth and trust it.

Below are some things you can think on while your pain is being healed.

1. Understand That Pain Has a Purpose

  • Like I said, if you’re alive you will have emotional pain. In other words, it’s a normal part of life. God can use pain in your life because He will never waste anything.
God never allows pain without a purpose in the lives of His children. He never allows Satan, nor circumstances, nor any ill-intending person to afflict us unless He uses that affliction for our good. God never wastes pain. He always causes it to work together for our ultimate good, the good of conforming us more to the likeness of His Son (see Romans 8:28-29).  ~ Jerry Bridges
2. Embrace The Pain.
  • Again, there is no instant cure. You must allow the feelings to be felt. Don’t cover them up. Don’t deny them. Feel them.
I am certain that I never did grow in grace one-half so much anywhere as I have upon the bed of pain.  ~ Charles Spurgeon
3. Strength Can Come From Pain
  • You would be amazed at how walking through your pain instead of trying to escape it instantly can actually cause you to become stronger in faith.
I am not a theologian or a scholar, but I am very aware of the fact that pain is necessary to all of us. In my own life, I think I can honestly say that out of the deepest pain has come the strongest conviction of the presence of God and the love of God.  ~ Elizabeth Elliot
4. Pain Allows You To Experience The Grace Of God
Paul said: “And He has said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.’ Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

5. Read These Two Books Of The Bible

  • Both Ecclesiastes and Job. Both of these books deal with the complete range of human emotion, particularly the harder “negative” emotions no one likes to dialog about.

SPECIAL NOTE: if you are have thoughts of suicide because of ever increasing emotional pain please seek professional help from a licensed councilor for help. You are valuable and the world needs you with us.

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I think bad days started in the Garden of Eden. In fact, I’m sure they started there. God pronounced everything good, and not long after that…a snake, forbidden fruit and an act of disobedience, gave birth to the first bad day. Since that day, bad days will show up from time to time. Bad days are now just a part of life, at least until Christ comes again.

Everyone has a bad day from time to time. If its been awhile since you’ve had one, count yourself blessed, but sooner of later, another bad day is going to jump on your back hard. However, there are a few keys that I believe will help you advance past a bad day and I would like to share them with you.

Key #1 is: Don’t put yourself in prison. (You can’t move forward behind bars.)

In other words, give yourself permission to have a bad day. Having a bad day doesn’t make you a bad person that needs to be locked away. When you think you’re a bad person, you will tend to beat yourself up for days, by putting on the boxing gloves of guilt, and hitting yourself over and over again. Two words for ya…STOP IT!

Key #2 is: Truly want to move past the bad day?

If you are savoring feeling unhappy or maltreated, you’re not prepared to stop having a bad day. Sometimes we like feeling like a victim. You must make the bold decision to move forward. It’s a choice. Kick the victim out the door!

Key #3 is: Do something kind for someone else immediately.

You can write an encouraging email to someone you haven’t spoken with in a while. You can do something for you family they didn’t expect to happen. Any time you do an encouraging act, you move toward God. When you move toward God, a bad day has to let go. It’s really that simple. Letting God love others through you, will bring healing to you. Go ahead…try it.