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Letting God into your problems is different from letting God watch your problems. Letting Him into your problems means you allow God to have control of what you are trying to run. On the other hand, letting God watch your problems is an insult to the work of the cross. He endured the cross so that you might be free in Him.

Psalm 46:10 says, “Cease striving and know that I am God.” (NASB) You and I fight against God when we try to control and win against the problems of our lives. It can’t be both ways with God when it comes to the subject of control. You can’t control and surrender control at the same time.  Either you are in control, or God is in control. One works to bring Him glory, and the other points to our own pride as the answer.

In order to have peace, the surrendering of your problems must be laid at the feet of Jesus. You must stop striving by taking your hands off the proverbial wheel of control. You long for peace and rest but you will never experience either until you give your problems to the Prince of Peace.

God loves to speak to His children, “The battle is not yours; it’s mine. You don’t have to fight in it.” You need to take the discouragement, the tiredness and the fatigue that comes along with carrying all the troubles and realize that it doesn’t depend on you. God is calling to you over and over to let Him  take control. Bless God today by giving Him the gift of your rubbish.

Turning your rubbish over to God means you must trust Him. When you don’t understand, or life seems unfair and makes remarkably little sense at all, that is a definite signpost pointing you to turn it all over to Jesus. Don’t be the person who says they trust God, but when trouble hits they run it through their own filter first. Remove the filter and let God be God in your life.

Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths”

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Are you living years or life?

It’s amazing how 6 words can stop you in your tracks and make you think. It has been said, “What you are is God’s gift to you, what you become is your gift to God.” What are you becoming? Are you living years or life?

There is an extreme difference between living years and living life. You can live years without following God, but you can’t live life without following God.

It doesn’t take extreme obedience to live years. You can just get up and go with the flow of the world and self-interest. However, to live life, -radical obedience is called for. You will be called to go against the flow of the world. You will be called to where it’s not comfortable. You will be called to risk much for Christ, but in the end, treasures of heaven awaits you.

As Christ followers, we are called to do more than wait for the future of- no more sin, no more tears, no more injustices, no more pain, or heartaches. We are called to live that future now. Living that kind of life is living life. Anything less than living God’s future in the now is just living years.

You will not grow closer to God’s heart by just living years. To grow closer to God, you must pursue His heart with deliberate steps of obedience. You must remain attentive to His voice in such a way that you walk with the awareness of His presence. The Bible is clear when it teaches in Proverbs 3:6, “in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight”

God doesn’t leave you alone to stumble ahead along the path of life. He is not impersonal or distant. A.W. Tozer once said, “We need never shout across the spaces to an absent God. He is nearer than our own soul, closer than our most secret thoughts” I love the fact that God is that close and wants to walk with me through life instead of just years.

As a pastor, I’ve stood beside many beds as people were drawing their last breath and I’ve never met one that regretted living life by following God. However, those I’ve stood beside that lived years have a different story. It is a story of regrets and remorse.

I challenge you today; make sure you are living life, and not just living years.

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Having self-confidence is a hugely important part of your Christian walk. If you don’t have enough self-confidence your life is more easily tossed to and fro by the waves of this unstable world. I want you to know today, that God is with you, and wants to help you with stronger self-confidence-the kind self-confidence that is found only in Him.

Without God’s gift of self-confidence in your life, you will soon find many unhealthy choices become commonplace in your life. I want you to remember that Jesus was confident in what the Father called Him to accomplish, and you can be confident in what He has called you to do.

God has made you remarkable for His purpose. If you walk daily in that purpose, self-confidence will occur because you are allowing Jesus to arise within you. You will then begin to see that you are not called to impress the world, but you are called to follow Christ through the world.

Here are a few tips to help you along the way.

1. Crush the desire to compare yourself to others

You must get rid of the desire to compare your life to others around you. It’s okay to learn from the strong points of someone’s life, but be careful not to compare the worst things about your life to the best things in someone else’s life. When you do that, it brings feelings that are not good to the table.

2. God made you to be you

Don’t live a fake life. In other words, don’t live the life of another person hoping people will like you more. God made you different on purpose. You are unique because God created you that way. You would be amazed at what God can do through your uniqueness when you give it to Him, and stop trying to get rid of it.

3. Throw negative self-talking out the door

This is a straightforward one. Throw it away! You need to start talking supportive to yourself again. God is on your side. If you had to build a bridge to walk across a pit of alligators, you wouldn’t build it out of weak planks. Therefore, don’t build the course of your daily life with poor planks.

4. Accept your weakness

That’s right! Accept your weakness. God can even use them. Read this scripture.

2 Cor 12:9-10 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

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Is Sex Greener On The Other Side Of The Fence?

The fastest way to destroy your marriage is to allow yourself to fall into an emotional attachment to someone other than your spouse. Nothing can steal intimacy faster than this first step away from the covenant God has placed you in when you took your vows before God and the world. Now, let me say at this point; if you want to comment adultery, it’s your choice…but know this-it’s going to cost you. It will destroy your home and the lives of many around you. There is simply no way around the fact that it will cause pain forever.

Adultery promises fulfillment and excitement that you feel you are not getting at home. The problem is, it always fails to live up to that promise sooner or later. You must remember, love is not a feeling; love is an action that you continually do and feelings are secondary. The green grass on the other side of the fence has the same sun shining on it as the grass you are thinking about leaving.

Please remember, that the decision to cross the fence comes with consequences that are enormous and last for a lifetime. It has been said before, and I agree, “No sex outside of marriage is that good.” That new adventure also has it’s own disappoints of life waiting to show itself soon enough. Those feelings of loneliness, emptiness and boredom that is diving you to pursue someone else…they will soon surface in the next relationship also. The reason why is that those feelings are inside you. In other words, everywhere you go, there you are.

It’s a fact that most people don’t set out to commit adultery. They let down their guard, and they generally drift out to sea until land seems to far to return to. It’s like the frog place in warm water: you turn up the temperature little by little until the frog is cooked. The frog just thinks it’s having a warm bath but the truth is he is being killed.

Allow me to give you three things that will help you to remain faithful and keep you from wreaking you life and others.

1. Keep the marriage bed on fire and purse each other

Take the time to talk with your spouse about your needs, wants and desires. Share with each other what you are looking for in the bedroom. Come to an agreement for the sake of the marriage, your kids and God. Submit to each other the bible teaches us. Cultivate romance in your relationship again. I would encourage you to pursue your spouse the way you did when you first started dating. If you are not still dating your spouse, you need to restart that as fast as you can. Get a baby sitter and leave the kids at home. Go to a movie and a meal. Hold hands and look into each other’s eyes. Talk about the beauty of the past and dream with each other about the beauty of the future.

2. Close the door on your heart to any other except your spouse

Make yourself accountable to a friend that will ask you about your flirting with others. Be open and honest with them and ask them to pray and ask you regularly about it. The bible teaches us that faithful are the wounds of a friend. Trust me, you need someone in your life that will speak truth without watering it down. You eyes are the gateway to the heart. Give your eyes back to your spouse and that feeling of him or her no longer having your heart will return like a flood.

3. Don’t deny you are being tempted

You and your spouse need to make a decision that you can freely and opening talk about your temptations. Temptation is not wrong. Temptation is not a sin. However, once you act on temptation sin is birthed. If you were at the office and someone was flirting with you or you were flirting with them…when you get home sit down and talk about it. You and your spouse need to decide in advance that these kinds of talk can and should take place without judgment. Confession can be risky, but the truth is, they can also save your marriage before it is too late.

Finally, if you are on the other side of adultery and have divorced and maybe even married again, and then grace and mercy from God is there when you repent of your sin. My advice would be this…go to the top of the post and read it again. Don’t commit the same SIN again.

Not so long ago… or depending on when you’re reading this, I posted the following statement on twitter.

    Don’t become so self-focused you miss the opportunity to help others grab their opportunity.

It came to me about 3:45am while on vacation. I must admit it really made me think. In fact, I couldn’t go back to sleep. In a world were each of us are just trying to get ahead, it often pays to slow down and help others. In fact, it’s a God trait.

Helping others is part of being a disciple of Christ. It was Christ who first showed us this gift. The gift of helping others. Even when Jesus was on mission to die for us, He still took the time at the last supper to wash the feet of the disciples. In other words, He didn’t step over the water basin and miss the opportunity to show great love. He served them, so they would one day have the nature to serve others.

I once saw a t-shirt that read, “Yeah I’m selfish helping others feels great.” It does fell great and the reason why is it brings glory to God when we help others.

What about you? Are you stepping over the water basin to often? Has life gotten so busy you walk by Jesus moments without even noticing?

Now get out there today and be selfish.

    Philippians 2:4 ESV
    Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.