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In a perfect world, every person you know would like you. However, this is not a perfect world as of yet. You can be the kindest and most compassionate person in the world, and yet there will be people that just don’t get you. There will be people that just don’t like you at all.

Right now, I bet you can see them with your minds eye. They don’t like you and it is just driving you crazy. It doesn’t occupy all of your thought life, but it pops up from time to time, just enough to keep you just off center in your walk with Christ.

Don’t misunderstand me, there might be a legitimate reason someone doesn’t like you very much. I’ve found in my life when that happens, it’s a excellent time to take an inventory and see if there is any truth there. If I think they are correct in their opinion of me, I take it as a chance to make some changes.

On the other hand, I know that no matter what I do, everyone is not going to like me, and the reality of the matter is, not everyone is going to like you.  The other person may have a low self-image, or they might be just insecure, and something about you just draws out the worst in them. The key is to not allow what they think of you to own you, or control you, or to fill you with questions about your worth.

Deep inside you want them to like you and that okay to want, but when you try to get people to like you; it most often leads to more frustration. You must remind yourself, that you can never please everyone. The focus needs to be taken off trying to please them.

The fact is, when you try and get the other person to like you…you are waste valuable friendship time with those who do like you. I often will find myself thinking way too much about someone who I know doesn’t like me, and when that happens, I’ve learned a little secret. My secret is to stop thinking about them, and start thinking and praying righteous thoughts over a friend that does like me.

Don’t misunderstand. I also pray for those who don’t like me, but I don’t have to purse them to my own detriment.

Allow me to give you a few tips to help you navigate people that don’t like you.

1. Don’t over focus on people that don’t like you (focus on positive relationships in your life)

2. Don’t treat those who don’t like you the same way they treat you (Kind of a Jesus thing)

3. Set a positive boundary in your life (You can only control you-not them)

4. Make a list of what bothers you about the other person (Then throw it away)

5. Forgive them (It’s the greatest thing you can do for you, and for them)

Remember Romans 12:18 “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”

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If you have ever had a friend, or a family member doubt the faith, you know how disheartening that can be. It cuts your very soul. In some cases, your friend or family member simply doubts something in the bible, but in other cases, they may even depart from the faith altogether. It hurts to see this happen, and it give rise to many emotions inside of you. In fact, many of those emotions, if not submitted to the Lord, can damage the one doubting, if unleashed on them improperly by you.

Here, are some things to do when doubt has captured your friend or family member.

1. Keep your emotions on the altar

Take all your angry feelings, and leave them on the altar of God. He can handle your pain better than you can. Worship Him until the feelings of hurt, anger, and betrayal slip away.

2. Trust that God is still asking questions through them

Even John the Baptist doubted at one point in his life, and sent word asking if Jesus was really the one. Once He heard the right answer, he was unchained from doubt, and moved on in His faith. All great men and women of God have doubted at some point in their walk with Christ.

3. When they become unfaithful, God doesn’t

2 Timothy 2:13 tells us, “if we are faithless, he will remain faithful, for he cannot disown himself.” God is faithful and will continue to work in their lives, even when they have stopped moving forward with God. You must remember, God loves your friend or family member more than you ever can.

4. God can move mountains

What is impossible for man is never impossible for God. He can move doubt over the cliff in their life in a moment of time. Mighty to Save by Hillsong says this,
Savior
He can move the mountains
My God is mighty to save
He is mighty to save
Forever
Author of Salvation
He rose & conquered the grave
Jesus conquered the grave

5. Finally, my favorite verse that many forget about.

MERCY! Jude 1:22 tells us, “22 And have mercy on those who doubt;” You must never forget that mercy wins over judgment. When you want to give judgement to the one you love…GIVE MERCY

God bless you
Pastor Steve

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What could God accomplish through your life, if He had all of you?

That question will one day be answered by hearing God say, “Well done good and faithful servant”, or by Him showing you what could have been.

I honestly don’t think you want to live a ‘could have been life’ for God. I truly believe you want to give all of yourself to God.

The Cry Of God’s Heart Is To Have All Of You. When the people of God would place a burnt offering on the altar in the Old Testament, they didn’t leave half the animal off the altar. All of it was placed on the altar. Otherwise, it wasn’t an offering. All of the animal had to be sacrificed. Your life is the same. God wants all of you, not just part of you.

God can’t be fully personal with you, and you can’t be fully human, until He has all of you. In Genesis when God created Adam and Eve, he called everything good. At that moment, Adam and Eve had access to God that was fully personal, and they were fully human, the way God has intended. After the choice to sin, they lost some of what they fully had.

When I was growing up I use to play at one of my friends houses, and we always had a great time. There were lots to do there. We often would play inside his home, which was big, and had plenty of rooms to mess around in. However, there was one room we were not allowed to play in. His mom would all ways warn us not to go in there. It was beautiful. The furniture was immaculate and the colors in the room where warm and inviting. His mom even raked the carpet with one of those carpet rakes. You could tell if someone walked across the room because it would leave footprints. All we could do was look at the room.

I wonder! Are there times we do the same thing to God? He wants all of us, and we give Him all our rooms but one. We know He can look into the room, but we simple won’t allow Him to go into the room. We remind Him that he has access to 90% of the rooms in our hearts…can He not just be happy with that?

Ask yourself today…Does God have Lordship over your entire life, or does he only have limited access to your life? What one room do you not allow Him to go into?

Read this passage today, and pay attention to what is really going on. This man is looking for more rules to enter the Kingdom of God, but God is wanting all of his rooms instead. God is wanting him to turn his character over to Him.

Mark 10:17-22
17 And as he was setting out on his journey, a man ran up and knelt before him and asked him, “Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?” 18 And Jesus said to him, “Why do you call me good? No one is good except God alone.
19 You know the commandments: ‘Do not murder, Do not commit adultery, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Do not defraud, Honor your father and mother.’” 20 And he said to him, “Teacher, all these I have kept from my youth.” possessions.21 And Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said to him, “You lack one thing: go, sell all that you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” 22 Disheartened by the saying, he went away sorrowful, for he had great

Notice: “You lack one thing”

He had one room He needed to give God access to. What is your one room? We all have one. Whatever it is that you are holding back from God, I ask you today to give it all to Him.

Remember, God can’t be fully personal with you, and you can’t be fully human, until He has all of you.

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I always try to throw more reasons why I can do something into the mix than I do the reasons I can’t. You should also. Let’s face it, life can be tough, but you can always be tougher. If you look hard enough, and deep enough, you will find more reasons why you can do what you need to do than reasons why you can’t.

Anne Frank once said, “Everyone has inside them a piece of good news. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is.” I love that quote. God has placed greatness inside of you because as a Christ follower, you have the Holy Spirit living inside of you. It just can’t get greater than that.

The impossible that stands in front of you is confronted with the power of the Holy Spirit. You must remember that nothing is impossible with God. What He has called you to, He will get you through. God inside of you knows no impossible situations. He is the God of all things possible. What is impossible for you is just another opportunity for Him to show off for His glory.

The Holy Spirit living on the inside of you makes you a champion, and a champion gets up, even when his or her world is falling apart, and uses the word CAN’T as a steppingstone. When you stand up in the power of the Holy Spirit, that is the moment the tide begins to turn. The tide of the ocean changes on a timetable. The tide is faithful to do so, because God who is in control is faithful.

It has been said, “Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” Now get out there and try again! You won’t regret it. In every crisis, there is an opportunity to let God show off through you.

Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”

4 Tips For Frustration

October 18, 2012 — Leave a comment

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Are you frustrated and feeling stuck? Each of us has been there. You feel like at every turn there is another dead-end waiting to greet you. You are stuck, and trying really hard only seems to make it worse. Sound familiar?

I’ve been frustrated and stuck many times in my life. I just wanted to throw in the towel and walk away. I have no way of knowing what you might be facing at this moment in your life, or what you are frustrated about, but I know this-God is able to get you through it.

Allow me to give you a few scriptures to meditate on.

Isaiah 41:10 tells us, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Psalms 34:18 tells us, “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”

Galatians 6:9 tells us, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. “

Now, before you give up and just quit, let me give you a few tips to help your walk.

1. Look again

Many times we stop looking for an answer right before the answer is reveled. Frustration can cause you to not see many times what is right in front of you. Therefore, look again. I once was trying to fix something at my house and was frustrated that I couldn’t make it work. I had tried everything and was ready to give up. At that moment a friend walked up, who was not frustrated, and gave me the solution to the problem. I just started laughing because it was so simple. I couldn’t see it because I was frustrated. LOOK AGAIN.

2. Back up and take the big look again

Many times we get so caught up in a small problem that we cant’ solve, that we miss the big picture of what we are really trying to accomplish. You may find out, by backing up, and looking at the big picture again, there is a different small step to take that will get you there. Trying a different small step might just be the key to getting unstuck. You could just be missing multiple solutions to the same problem.

3. Never stop the action

Don’t allow frustration to stop your work. You are closer to success than you think. When you are not getting anywhere, don’t procrastinate. (See Point 1 Again)

4. Stamp a positive outlook on your eyeballs

Don’t allow fear to speak a bad outcome to you. Imagine a positive out come and let that be the target you aim at and hit. See yourself achieving your goal with God’s power and blessings. When you think positive, it will put the wind at your back.

One last scripture for you to think about

James 1:2-4 Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

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First, I’ll start with a confession. There are times I use words that I shouldn’t use. There are also times that I say things about people that I shouldn’t say. I must admit, when I’m wronged or feel like I’ve been wronged, it just flat out feels good to GO OFF!

But here is the problem with going off. Ephesians 4:29a tells us, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths…” That’s right my Christian friend, we just can’t go there with our mouths. When it comes to a full house cleaning, it’s hard work; but once it has been cleansed, it just feels and looks right.

Cleaning up your language is like a full house cleaning. It simply must be done. We are even told in the book of James (James 1:26) to keep a tight rein on our tongues. So, if you are like me, and have problems from time to time with your mouth throwing gossip, or unwholesome words out, (which is actually a heart issue) then here are a few things you can do.

1. Many verses in the bible give you the answer in the second part

For instance, Ephesians 4:29 (motioned earlier) says, Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but in the second part, it says, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. The answer is build right into the verse. Now that leads to the next step.

2. When someone has slammed a door on your feelings, don’t cuss them

Instead, bless them. When you do, you will then see the open door God has for you. God always gives an open door to bless others. Even when they have wronged you, God has a better way.

3. Picture Jesus on the cross

It’s impossible to look at the cross and at the same time, cuss and talk careless about others. You simply can’t look up at the cross and look down on others at the same time.

4. Picture the future and then behave like it in the now

Picture when heaven and earth will come together (Rev 21). In that day, God will dwell with us, and there will be no more tears or death, or mourning, or pain. In other words, sin is forever gone and the world is as it was intended to be. With that picture in mind…live like that in the now. Don’t cause any of that kind of pain to another person. Show them the future inside of you. When you do, they will see Jesus, and that is way better than cussing and gossip.

What are your thoughts? Leave a comment.

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Having self-confidence is a hugely important part of your Christian walk. If you don’t have enough self-confidence your life is more easily tossed to and fro by the waves of this unstable world. I want you to know today, that God is with you, and wants to help you with stronger self-confidence-the kind self-confidence that is found only in Him.

Without God’s gift of self-confidence in your life, you will soon find many unhealthy choices become commonplace in your life. I want you to remember that Jesus was confident in what the Father called Him to accomplish, and you can be confident in what He has called you to do.

God has made you remarkable for His purpose. If you walk daily in that purpose, self-confidence will occur because you are allowing Jesus to arise within you. You will then begin to see that you are not called to impress the world, but you are called to follow Christ through the world.

Here are a few tips to help you along the way.

1. Crush the desire to compare yourself to others

You must get rid of the desire to compare your life to others around you. It’s okay to learn from the strong points of someone’s life, but be careful not to compare the worst things about your life to the best things in someone else’s life. When you do that, it brings feelings that are not good to the table.

2. God made you to be you

Don’t live a fake life. In other words, don’t live the life of another person hoping people will like you more. God made you different on purpose. You are unique because God created you that way. You would be amazed at what God can do through your uniqueness when you give it to Him, and stop trying to get rid of it.

3. Throw negative self-talking out the door

This is a straightforward one. Throw it away! You need to start talking supportive to yourself again. God is on your side. If you had to build a bridge to walk across a pit of alligators, you wouldn’t build it out of weak planks. Therefore, don’t build the course of your daily life with poor planks.

4. Accept your weakness

That’s right! Accept your weakness. God can even use them. Read this scripture.

2 Cor 12:9-10 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

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Sex Was God’s Idea

October 12, 2012 — Leave a comment

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One of my favorite places in the Bible is Genesis 1:31 “And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good.” When God creates anything, it’s good, it has design, and it has a purpose. There is just no way around that beautiful truth.

The trouble then, is not with God, but with humanity. Mankind has a history of taken what God has created and set purpose to and messing it all up. We have a way of taking good things and making bad things out of them for our own pleasure and purpose. When we do that, we are making an idol of self to worship, instead of worshiping only God.

Okay then! Let’s see a show of hands. Who out there likes sex? Wow! I knew it, that’s a lot of hands up. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed. Sex is awesome. God created it, and therefore, it is very good. However, the key to keeping it good is to keep it pure in the context of God’s given standards. When sex is taken outside of God’s blessings, it becomes damaging.

Sex was meant for marriage

Sex in marriage was God’s idea. To debate with that truth is to only be arguing with God. If you want, go for it, but know this…you’re not going to win. Scripture declares to each of us in Proverbs 16:25, “There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” That’s pretty straightforward. I’ve often said, “What you believe matters, because what you believe determines how you will live.” You are either living in God’s will or outside of God’s will. There is no middle ground.

When God created sex it was to populate the world. In other words, it was for procreation. Adam and Eve were told by God to “be fruitful and multiply.” The way you multiply is to have…wait for it…wait for it….SEX. Another benefit of sex was that Adam and Eve could experience intimacy the way God intended for intimacy to truly be. Please make a note in you heart at this point that sex was placed in the context of one man and one woman. Sex was placed in the context of marriage.

Allow me to throw in a few side comments the bible speaks of. (You can read them on your own)

1. God’s word says to flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18)

2. God’s word says not to commit adultery (Exodus 20:14)

Sex was meant for marriage because it’s the way God has set it up. It has been said by many that God’s purpose and design for sex are impossible to be achieved outside of marriage. I would fully agree with that summation.

The damage of having sex outside of marriage can be both physical and relational.

1. Sexually Transmitted Diseases

2. Unwanted Child

3. You place a wedge between you and God.

4. You damage your testimony

5. You will carry memories of sex outside of marriage into marriage. (Can be a colossal problem)

So what if you have messed up already?

1. Take it to God and ask Him to forgive you.

Repent of your sin and turn your back on it. He is full of mercy and grace. He took all your condemnation on the cross.

2. Move forward without guilty in your walk with Christ

In my book, The Descent to Compassion, I deal with the Woman caught in adultery. Jesus forgives her and then tells her to, “Go and sin no more.” I love that! He calls it sin, and then gives her grace and mercy.

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I hate when I set goals and then fail to meet them. It’s certainly not a life and death issue, but the voice inside of me usually makes me feel extremely bad. All of us have that voice inside that berates us when we have failed in one way or another. The voice speaks when we have done things like, putting off something for later (which never get done) and then we never get back to it.

That’s when the voice starts! Saying things like, “You always put things off. Can’t you do any better?” Well, you get the idea-it’s not a voice of grace and encouragement. It is a voice of self-condemnation.

It’s not like you can cut the voice off altogether, but you don’t have to let it get the better of you. Also, that voice could have some truth in it (some God in it) and you would do well to listen to it and change some things in your life. The key is to not let is condemn you, but instruct you. It shouldn’t make you feel an unhealthy guilt. It should cause you to examine what part is true, and then make an honest effort to do better the next time.

Don’t allow the voice to harm you; let the voice help you. Find the God part of the voice and weed out the negative part of the voice that tries to mix with God’s loving voice.

Here are a few tips to help you stop beating yourself up

1. Don’t step on your own heart

Stop being so hard on yourself. You are loved and approved by God. You don’t need to prove anything in order to gain love. You have love. God loves you no matter what. Part of stepping on your own heart comes form not believing you are good enough. Self-punishment never works. Self-punishment will never take the fear away. The bible tells us that perfect love cast out fear. Hold on to that promise.

2. Stop believing you are a failure

You need to kick the word failure in the face with your God foot. Constantly entertaining the word ‘failure’ in your life can emotionally debilitate you. God often speaks into our life to instruct us, or to convict us, but it’s never so that we feel like a failure. God has called you His own and builds through your weaknesses with grace and mercy. Always remember, when you are weak He is strong.

3. Let God love the weak and ugly side of you

Once again, we are back to love. We always give God our good side. Try giving Him your weak and ugly side. You would be amazed at what He can do with the messy stuff in your life. Place your ugly stuff in His hands and leave it there. Remember the guy in the bible (Luke 18) that was bragging about all his good work and God said he wasn’t justified? Then another guy comes in a very humble way, and gives God his ugly side and God says that guys left and was justified.

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JealousyThe most unsightly stage to live life on is Jealousy. Jealousy is even more menacing than anger or fury. Don’t believe me? Take a look at Proverbs 27:4, “Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?”(NIV)

Jealousy divides people, which is the opposite of what Christ followers should be doing. We are reconcilers in Christ. We have been called to walk in the ministry of reconciliation. Jealousy is an enemy and will destroy your testimony of Christ likeness.

Jealousy is not something new to the human experience. In fact, it’s been around since the very beginning. Satan used it to inspire Adam and Eve to disobey God. Cain and Abel is another excellent example. I could go on and on, but you get the point. Jealousy is nothing new and neither is its danger.

What’s in the soil of jealousy?

1. Unsuccessful outlook on your life

We want what we want now. That seems to be the default thinking of the fallen heart within us. Life has a way many times of not delivering things we want fast enough. Therefore, when someone else gets what you wanted before you get it, it gives rise to jealousy.

2. Privilege is a right

Our fallen DNA speaks an untruth constantly. In the echoes of our fallen human heart, we hear the whisper, “You have the right to anything you want.” We truly do have a predisposition toward entitlement that is extraordinarily damaging to our witness for Christ, if we let it gain control of our lives.

3. The more monster

Many live life always wanting more because they are convinced that more of this, or more of that, will make them happy. More will never complete you. Only God can complete you. It easy to look at other people and wish you had all they had. What is difficult, yet healing is to look at God and know assuredly that He is all you will ever need.

How to get a handle on jealousy

1. First, you must submit your thoughts to God.

The mind is a powerful gift, but when allowed to grow negative thoughts, and thoughts of jealousy, it can create chaos into your life. The moment this begins to take place, you can win against it, by stopping, and praying for someone to be blessed other than yourself. In fact, try praying for the person you are jealous of. (Oh Yeah!)

2. Believe God’s plan for your life again

God has a plan for you life. He is building your life. He takes away what needs to be taken away, and he allows into your life those things that you actually need. His timing is correct in your life. There is no need to compare yourself to others.

3. Blessing others will keep you free

This one is a no-brainer. Blessing others will take the focus off of you. When you bless others, you are blessing God. When you bless God, marvelous things happen inside of you soul. Test it and you will see.

4. Take an inventory

Count up all the good things in your life. You just might be surprised at all the good you actually have. The garage of your life is not that empty. You simply have more blessings than you know you do. We often lose sight of them all because we are always looking for more.

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