One of my favorite places in the Bible is Genesis 1:31 “And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good.” When God creates anything, it’s good, it has design, and it has a purpose. There is just no way around that beautiful truth.
The trouble then, is not with God, but with humanity. Mankind has a history of taken what God has created and set purpose to and messing it all up. We have a way of taking good things and making bad things out of them for our own pleasure and purpose. When we do that, we are making an idol of self to worship, instead of worshiping only God.
Okay then! Let’s see a show of hands. Who out there likes sex? Wow! I knew it, that’s a lot of hands up. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed. Sex is awesome. God created it, and therefore, it is very good. However, the key to keeping it good is to keep it pure in the context of God’s given standards. When sex is taken outside of God’s blessings, it becomes damaging.
Sex was meant for marriage
Sex in marriage was God’s idea. To debate with that truth is to only be arguing with God. If you want, go for it, but know this…you’re not going to win. Scripture declares to each of us in Proverbs 16:25, “There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” That’s pretty straightforward. I’ve often said, “What you believe matters, because what you believe determines how you will live.” You are either living in God’s will or outside of God’s will. There is no middle ground.
When God created sex it was to populate the world. In other words, it was for procreation. Adam and Eve were told by God to “be fruitful and multiply.” The way you multiply is to have…wait for it…wait for it….SEX. Another benefit of sex was that Adam and Eve could experience intimacy the way God intended for intimacy to truly be. Please make a note in you heart at this point that sex was placed in the context of one man and one woman. Sex was placed in the context of marriage.
Allow me to throw in a few side comments the bible speaks of. (You can read them on your own)
1. God’s word says to flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18)
2. God’s word says not to commit adultery (Exodus 20:14)
Sex was meant for marriage because it’s the way God has set it up. It has been said by many that God’s purpose and design for sex are impossible to be achieved outside of marriage. I would fully agree with that summation.
The damage of having sex outside of marriage can be both physical and relational.
1. Sexually Transmitted Diseases
2. Unwanted Child
3. You place a wedge between you and God.
4. You damage your testimony
5. You will carry memories of sex outside of marriage into marriage. (Can be a colossal problem)
So what if you have messed up already?
1. Take it to God and ask Him to forgive you.
Repent of your sin and turn your back on it. He is full of mercy and grace. He took all your condemnation on the cross.
2. Move forward without guilty in your walk with Christ
In my book, The Descent to Compassion, I deal with the Woman caught in adultery. Jesus forgives her and then tells her to, “Go and sin no more.” I love that! He calls it sin, and then gives her grace and mercy.