8 Tips For Overcoming Shyness

August 28, 2012 — Leave a comment


Look up the definition of shyness and you will read, “the state of being timid, easily frightened, reserved, bashful, and shrinking from contact with others.”

When you step into a room full of people, especially if they are people you don’t know…do you feel uncomfortable and self-conscious? Do you feel deep down in your soul a heavy anxiety and you just want the night to end? What about talking with someone new, do you hesitant to put yourself out there? If you feel and do any of these things and maybe a few other things that are similar…then you my friend have a shyness problem.

Anytime that fear controls you or self-consciousness stops you from engaging fully in the lives of others that can be a reflection of self-centeredness and even a hint of pride. The good news is that God through the power of the Holy Spirit can set you free but it takes obedience that is uncomfortable.

What is it that you are overcoming when you obey God to live past your comfort zone of shyness?

1. You overcome extreme self-awareness by thinking about the needs of others around you as more important.

2. You overcome the life chocking power that shyness always causes.

3. You forget about all the wrong things you might be doing in a group of people and you start to see you can do better by just trying.

How to Overcome Shyness

1. Like yourself because God does. You know God loves you because the bible says He does but you need to also know He likes you. Believe it!

2. Step out in faith in a room full of people and put yourself out there. Step off the foundation of shyness and step onto the foundation of faith. God will be there to help. I promise.

3. Don’t feel the need to be like everyone else. (read next sentence slow) You are you, and the you that you are, is the you that God made special.

4. Talk to yourself. Speak into your spirit you have something to offer the people in the room. If you speak positive to yourself and then act on it…you will be amazed at the outcome.

5. Force yourself to speak up, especially when you are afraid to do so.

6. Make yourself visible. Don’t sneak off into a safe place in the crowded room.

7. Learn to ask questions of others and then just be a good listener.

8. Know before you do anything that from time to time you will be rejected or have an unpleasant moment. (That’s okay…it’s their loss)

2 Tim 1:7 (MSG) God doesn’t want us to be shy with his gifts, but bold and loving and sensible.


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Steve Wright

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Lead Pastor of Legacy Church and Author of The Descent to Compassion

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